The child that struggles to gets B's is the one that is developing the right mindset needed to overcome challenges and obstacles later in life. While the child that gets easy A's is not developing in quite the same way. JESSICA LAHEY wrote a great blog on this point, One Works for B's; One gets easy A's.
Recent research has proven just how powerful the right mindset is in determining one's success in overcoming challenges and accomplishing goals. Research by Carol Dweck has highlighted the important difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset, and the importance of praising the process of learning the not the outcome.
Replace "you must be smart at this" with "you must have really worked hard". A fixed mindset child develops a belief that talent is innate and there is no room for growth, but a growth mindset child develops a belief that talent comes from work and is charged with limitless potential.
See what Carol Dweck has to say about Praise and Mindset and listen to what Derek Sivers says about the importance of struggling and Why you need to fail.
This is a visual summary of Dweck's findings.
Praise risk-taking and setbacks
Focus on effort, struggle, persistence
Look for difficult tasks - and set your mind on the reward of failure
Focus on Strategies to overcome challenges
Reflect and adapt to what's working and remove what is not
Focus on the process NOT the outcome. Be passionate about the Learning and the act of improving
Seek challenges that redefine who you are - "I am an early riser"
Choose to work hard
This Powerpoint is a quick overview on the differences between Growth Mindset and Fixed Mindset.